5 thoughts on “How should the parents of both parties meet for the first time?”
Cedric
It is very important to meet the parents for the first time. It must be properly arranged to leave a good impression on both parties to help them go further on the road of marriage!
The meetings at all levels First of all, pay attention to the first meeting. It is necessary to spend time as a strategy. This prerequisite is very important. Even if there are places where you can do it in the later period, you can get the recognition of both parties. At least the attitude is correct. A lot of energy is on it. Just like in the study, even if the grades are not good, at least you work hard, the teacher will encourage you. In the first meeting, you can meet in a hotel or hotel. This arrangement can prove that you are officially looking at this problem, you can eat a hotel that suits you, and you can also impress the parents of both parties from the side, and naturally make them feel that you value. High -end and high -quality services can ease the emotions of both sides and reduce the tension between the two parties. The first meeting can also meet at home. This is more kind and natural, and you can understand the family situation of both parties more deeply. At the same time, it can evoke the topic of both parties and not to be cold. However, when you meet at home (usually a man's family), you must sort out the internal affairs. Don't mess around, make people feel bad, otherwise it will be greatly impressed by this meeting, which will also affect the subsequent marriage process. It you want to buy enough gifts, as well as fruits and flowers. Fruit can reflect the quality of life. Flowers can reflect a romantic temperament. The solemn and warmth of the meeting. In addition, to prepare for tea, it is best to understand the hobbies of parents on both sides. You can drink drinks and drink tea, or drink milk, etc., to take care of each parent, and make them feel the intentions of young people. In young people must also prepare enough topics, and learn about the taboos of parents chatting between both parties in advance, otherwise the taboos of chatting are easy to be cold or embarrassing. Try not to invite too many unrelated personnel to come to the house that day, otherwise there will be something that there is no way to predict, because the protagonist of the day is the parents of both parties, and other relatives and friends should not invite. Unless they are more well -known friends who can adjust the atmosphere. The experience of my brother Is when my brother arranged for the parents of both parties to meet, I was particularly impressive. Gifts and the like. At the same time, I prepared the betel nut that Laozhang people like to eat, which can be said to be very careful. In after all, as long as you prepare carefully and consider some details, then this meeting must be a relatively successful meeting. Don't be too nervous.
1. Make sure to meet: the newcomer's working hours are busy, and the time of parents must be discussed. It is best to be all family members. 2. The place of meeting is determined: In order to speak quietly, in fact, you can directly choose to be in the home of one side, and you usually choose the woman's home. Because the two parties are going to form a pro -family, speaking is warmer and easier to speak at home. It can also be familiar with to visit the home or take daily life as the topic. If you want to dine and chat, you can choose the restaurant to meet. But be sure to choose an independent private room, you can book in advance. It is best to choose restaurants with quiet, good environment, and exquisite dishes. The dishes can be ordered by newcomers in advance. Do not order food on the spot, waste time, and embarrass everyone. The dishes should be mainly based on the taste of the elderly. Newcomers can ask at home to inquire about good eating habits and whether they are more polite and comprehensive. 3. Meeting etiquette: This solemn occasion is also very important to wear. Wearing a solemn dress, combed the hair neatly, and matches the appropriate jewelry. Parents on both sides need to shake hands, or take off their nods to pay off and greet each other. generally introduced the parents of both children, and the introduction should not be too long. Smile is also very important. From then on, it will become a family. A good beginning will also lay a good foundation for the future. Although the parents meet, the protagonist is still a child. The children need to take care of the embarrassment whether they are regulating the atmosphere, the dining, or even the toilet. The elegance and dignity during meals, because they are gathered for their children, not mainly to eat. Pay attention to dining rituals, chew slowly, and do not use your own chopsticks to pinch vegetables for each other. The occasion is generally a round table that can be rotated. Some high -end restaurants will automatically rotate, so there is no need to put vegetables for each other. The newcomer should pay attention to that while taking care of the elderly, they must also pay attention to their other half, and let the elders feel the love between children. 4. Meeting gifts: Gifts are for children, so gifts for each other do not have to be too expensive. Of course, if the economic conditions are good, you can also choose jewelry and soft as a gift. But red wine, tea, ladies cosmetics, etc. are enough. 5. Do a good job of communicating with your family beforehand. Before the parents meet, they need to introduce some of their families, so that the parents of both parties have a preliminary contact and understanding. This is a small detail. The so -called basic situation is roughly age, work experience, retirement or employment, and personal hobbies. In this way, you can talk about the topic for the first time, not too embarrassing.
Pay content for time limit to check for freenAnswer 1. Talking about the first time between the parents of both sides to meet, because they are not familiar, so if they can't find a talk, choose to talk about the family. Share some things in your family. In this way, it can quickly shorten the distance between the two families, and it will also make the other parents feel that they are relatively cheerful and better, so that they are more assured of the children's future life.n2. Talk to work. When the Chinese are eating, they usually prefer to talk about work. Although he may hear what his child has mentioned what the other parents do, you can still talk about when you meet. In this way, both parties will have a better understanding and know how the family they are facing.nAsk the two parents to meet for the first timenAnswer 3. Talk about children's growth. Parents of both sides can choose to talk about things that their children have been from childhood to childhood, especially some interesting things. This will give each other parents a better understanding of their children, and this can also be more active. After all, the two sides also hope to have a relaxed atmosphere.nAsk the opening of the two pro -dinner dinnernAnswer 4. Talk about marriage. This is the most important thing for both parties to meet. If the parents of both parties meet, then they will generally involve the marriage of the two children in the future. Regarding marriage, it is relatively cumbersome, and there are a lot of attention, so you can discuss it in advance. In this way, when you get married, you will have a lot of trouble. Specifically, you can talk about wedding days, house decoration and wedding hotels.n1. From the beginning of familiarity, introduce your children to the other party, and talk about the advantages of some children. 2 Talk about all aspects of the family. 3, exaggerate the other party's child, talk about the good impression of each other's children. 4. Communicate with each other and attitude towards children. 5. Learn about the other parents' thoughts, and then mention your opinions. 6. Talk about issues and opinions related to marriage and future marriage. 7. For the active atmosphere, you can talk about unrelated topics such as weather, traffic, etc.nPolite, polite, let the elders talk more, in addition, relax, on the basis of the front, the same time is the samenYou don’t need to be nervous when you meet, relax, talk about your family first, and slowly go deep into the theme to say that marriage matters are fine.n7 morenBleak
This is not an issue that is not arranged. This is to discuss the decision. Many people think that the parents of both parties meet. It is nothing more than looking for a restaurant or place. Even if it is done. If you think so, it is wrong. It doesn't matter if your parents don't care about these details, but if you care about the details, the two will inevitably occur or have opinions because of "arrangement". The opinions I give you is that before the parents of both parties meet, talk to their parents and let parents tell themselves about what they need to pay attention to when they meet. Essence After discussing, go to his girlfriend to touch his head, then go to the woman's house to ask the woman's parents, and then decide the way and place of meeting. This is the most correct approach. Is when you sought the opinions of the two parents, and then arranged the meeting in accordance with the women's parents and his parents' suggestions and requirements. However, it should be noted that sometimes the parents of the woman will deliberately make difficulties, or on the surface, they will be good, and all kinds of stabbing in the back. Before arranging the meeting, they must be clear to their girlfriend. Only my girlfriend stands on you. By the way, then the next thing is easy to do. If the two young people you meet, and the parents of your two parties, then you don't have to prepare too tedious things, but if there are relatives from both parties present, then the seven mouthfuls may be in the tongue. Essence Therefore, if you can, try to stop your relatives from the present except for parents. If you want to mix it in, you can explain to your girlfriend first. Meeting is to discuss the marriage of the two newcomers. Inessed, although many relatives came to help and make ideas, in fact, it is full of bad water. This kind of person is not uncommon in reality. In order to prevent it, try not to let relatives present.
The preparations and suggestions related to the first meeting between the parents of the two parties include, but not limited to: communication, pavement, detail attitude, marriage discussion, and avoid conflict. For details, see below:
Personal experience: Remember that I came to my house to eat at my family. My family arranged meals in a restaurant in the county seat. Because they were more independent with the boyfriend at that time, and the process of communication was more agreed. There was no embarrassment on both sides of the parents. How do we arrange and how do we do it. The whole process is very happy. During the meal, parents were happy to talk about each other, and then drove back after setting up the matter. What should I do, how to talk, I compiled the following points: . [Preparation] 1. Do a good job of communication Some basic situations of the family have introduced the parents of both parties to have a preliminary contact and understanding. This is a very important small detail. The so -called basic situation is the rough age, work experience, retirement or employment, and personal hobbies. In this way, you can talk about the topic for the first time, not too embarrassing. 2. Early pavement Is that little couples often meet with parents of both parties at dating and maintain a good relationship, so that the parents of the other party can recognize you and like you. In this way, when the parents of both parties meet, they will also be in the meeting. It is more friendly to your parents and it is easier to do. . [Note when you meet] 1, things step by step It recommended to start with the preferences of both parents and family, and slowly become familiar with it. Essence In addition, some specific numbers are inconvenient to mention, which can be appropriately cited for some subtle words to express. The key questions should be clearly answered. Don't be embarrassed, just seek truth from facts. 2. Be sincere and humble It parents like to brag about their families and put themselves high. They are very favorable for their children. Parents on both sides are best sincere, both to promote a marriage, so the little couples must inform their parents and not to put their postures. 3. Avoid conflicts in the process If the parents of both parties are not speculative and even conflict, newcomers should mediate, ease the atmosphere, and seek solutions calmly and calmly. It shows that this marriage is also valued by the parents of both parties, so try to say hello to their parents as much as possible to avoid conflict.
4. Avoid details of the process The more details are talked about, the more details on the details can be done at a time. Hobbies and hobbies, enhance mutual understanding. 5. Wedding discussion If parents who are preparing to get married meet, the wedding matters are of course the focus of discussion. Therefore, you can talk about: the decoration of the house, which in the new house, the payment of gifts, the payment of gifts, the determination of the wedding period, the local customs of the male (female) party, etc. Many wedding preparations can be discussed (These are the premise that the little couples have communicated well with their parents. Do n’t take it without communicating before.) It a few points need to be avoided: ① temporary change of hexagrams and changes: before private communication before, private communication before The behavior of good grace and temporary price increase will make the other party think that it is very sincere. ②The attitude is tough, not to discuss: How much gifts must be used, otherwise other talks are available. This is the rhythm of collapse. ③ Give the horse: We are not going to marry your home. Or there are more people chasing him, if you do n’t agree, there are others. Such conversations will definitely annoy each other.
. [Treatment after meeting] time to communicate with the parents in time after meeting. Parents are all people who come over and will never let you lose. If they are not satisfied, you can try to explain and adjust it first, and then communicate with the other party to discuss how to solve it.
. Parents on both sides should pay attention to? The meeting place Mades to meet the parents of both sides are generally to talk about the issue of marriage, so the location choice should not be too casual and noisy. The arrangement of the meeting should be elegant and quiet. Or the woman's home is waiting. The meeting time The time when both parents meet at the time of the couple and the parents of both parties, such as rest days, such as rest days. In addition, in order to take care of the physical strength of the parents, the total length of the meeting should be controlled at 1-2 hours. attenders The attenders at the meeting should include only couples and parents of both parties. Avoid the seven aunts, eight aunts, and their own affairs will inevitably have many inconveniences. Parents on both sides may hinder some important issues due to face -to -face ignoring. 4. Parents on both sides can call each other's parents: XX Dad XX Mom, if the relationship is familiar, you can also directly call your family Please click input image description Gift list 1. Fruit category: Principles are not buying Those who are too ordinary, buy delicious and not too heavy. Fruits are the first time to meet the most secure choice. It will not be amazing, but it will never be rude.
2. Food: Special dry goods, such as Cordyceps Summer, ginseng, pepper, abalone, and so on.
3. Specialty category: This is a very clever type of gifts, such as buying some pearl powder, specialty products on the seaside, and local specialty cakes to get it. It is generous to get the special product that allows the other party to try early.
4. Others: For example, you can buy skin care products, bags, perfume or something for the other mother. If you give the other father's father, buy tea, crafts, tobacco and alcohol.
It is very important to meet the parents for the first time. It must be properly arranged to leave a good impression on both parties to help them go further on the road of marriage!
The meetings at all levels
First of all, pay attention to the first meeting. It is necessary to spend time as a strategy. This prerequisite is very important. Even if there are places where you can do it in the later period, you can get the recognition of both parties. At least the attitude is correct. A lot of energy is on it. Just like in the study, even if the grades are not good, at least you work hard, the teacher will encourage you.
In the first meeting, you can meet in a hotel or hotel. This arrangement can prove that you are officially looking at this problem, you can eat a hotel that suits you, and you can also impress the parents of both parties from the side, and naturally make them feel that you value. High -end and high -quality services can ease the emotions of both sides and reduce the tension between the two parties.
The first meeting can also meet at home. This is more kind and natural, and you can understand the family situation of both parties more deeply. At the same time, it can evoke the topic of both parties and not to be cold. However, when you meet at home (usually a man's family), you must sort out the internal affairs. Don't mess around, make people feel bad, otherwise it will be greatly impressed by this meeting, which will also affect the subsequent marriage process.
It you want to buy enough gifts, as well as fruits and flowers. Fruit can reflect the quality of life. Flowers can reflect a romantic temperament. The solemn and warmth of the meeting. In addition, to prepare for tea, it is best to understand the hobbies of parents on both sides. You can drink drinks and drink tea, or drink milk, etc., to take care of each parent, and make them feel the intentions of young people.
In young people must also prepare enough topics, and learn about the taboos of parents chatting between both parties in advance, otherwise the taboos of chatting are easy to be cold or embarrassing. Try not to invite too many unrelated personnel to come to the house that day, otherwise there will be something that there is no way to predict, because the protagonist of the day is the parents of both parties, and other relatives and friends should not invite. Unless they are more well -known friends who can adjust the atmosphere.
The experience of my brother
Is when my brother arranged for the parents of both parties to meet, I was particularly impressive. Gifts and the like. At the same time, I prepared the betel nut that Laozhang people like to eat, which can be said to be very careful.
In after all, as long as you prepare carefully and consider some details, then this meeting must be a relatively successful meeting. Don't be too nervous.
1. Make sure to meet: the newcomer's working hours are busy, and the time of parents must be discussed. It is best to be all family members.
2. The place of meeting is determined: In order to speak quietly, in fact, you can directly choose to be in the home of one side, and you usually choose the woman's home. Because the two parties are going to form a pro -family, speaking is warmer and easier to speak at home. It can also be familiar with to visit the home or take daily life as the topic.
If you want to dine and chat, you can choose the restaurant to meet. But be sure to choose an independent private room, you can book in advance. It is best to choose restaurants with quiet, good environment, and exquisite dishes. The dishes can be ordered by newcomers in advance. Do not order food on the spot, waste time, and embarrass everyone. The dishes should be mainly based on the taste of the elderly. Newcomers can ask at home to inquire about good eating habits and whether they are more polite and comprehensive.
3. Meeting etiquette: This solemn occasion is also very important to wear. Wearing a solemn dress, combed the hair neatly, and matches the appropriate jewelry. Parents on both sides need to shake hands, or take off their nods to pay off and greet each other.
generally introduced the parents of both children, and the introduction should not be too long. Smile is also very important. From then on, it will become a family. A good beginning will also lay a good foundation for the future. Although the parents meet, the protagonist is still a child. The children need to take care of the embarrassment whether they are regulating the atmosphere, the dining, or even the toilet.
The elegance and dignity during meals, because they are gathered for their children, not mainly to eat. Pay attention to dining rituals, chew slowly, and do not use your own chopsticks to pinch vegetables for each other.
The occasion is generally a round table that can be rotated. Some high -end restaurants will automatically rotate, so there is no need to put vegetables for each other. The newcomer should pay attention to that while taking care of the elderly, they must also pay attention to their other half, and let the elders feel the love between children.
4. Meeting gifts: Gifts are for children, so gifts for each other do not have to be too expensive. Of course, if the economic conditions are good, you can also choose jewelry and soft as a gift. But red wine, tea, ladies cosmetics, etc. are enough.
5. Do a good job of communicating with your family beforehand. Before the parents meet, they need to introduce some of their families, so that the parents of both parties have a preliminary contact and understanding. This is a small detail. The so -called basic situation is roughly age, work experience, retirement or employment, and personal hobbies. In this way, you can talk about the topic for the first time, not too embarrassing.
Pay content for time limit to check for freenAnswer 1. Talking about the first time between the parents of both sides to meet, because they are not familiar, so if they can't find a talk, choose to talk about the family. Share some things in your family. In this way, it can quickly shorten the distance between the two families, and it will also make the other parents feel that they are relatively cheerful and better, so that they are more assured of the children's future life.n2. Talk to work. When the Chinese are eating, they usually prefer to talk about work. Although he may hear what his child has mentioned what the other parents do, you can still talk about when you meet. In this way, both parties will have a better understanding and know how the family they are facing.nAsk the two parents to meet for the first timenAnswer 3. Talk about children's growth. Parents of both sides can choose to talk about things that their children have been from childhood to childhood, especially some interesting things. This will give each other parents a better understanding of their children, and this can also be more active. After all, the two sides also hope to have a relaxed atmosphere.nAsk the opening of the two pro -dinner dinnernAnswer 4. Talk about marriage. This is the most important thing for both parties to meet. If the parents of both parties meet, then they will generally involve the marriage of the two children in the future. Regarding marriage, it is relatively cumbersome, and there are a lot of attention, so you can discuss it in advance. In this way, when you get married, you will have a lot of trouble. Specifically, you can talk about wedding days, house decoration and wedding hotels.n1. From the beginning of familiarity, introduce your children to the other party, and talk about the advantages of some children. 2 Talk about all aspects of the family. 3, exaggerate the other party's child, talk about the good impression of each other's children. 4. Communicate with each other and attitude towards children. 5. Learn about the other parents' thoughts, and then mention your opinions. 6. Talk about issues and opinions related to marriage and future marriage. 7. For the active atmosphere, you can talk about unrelated topics such as weather, traffic, etc.nPolite, polite, let the elders talk more, in addition, relax, on the basis of the front, the same time is the samenYou don’t need to be nervous when you meet, relax, talk about your family first, and slowly go deep into the theme to say that marriage matters are fine.n7 morenBleak
This is not an issue that is not arranged. This is to discuss the decision. Many people think that the parents of both parties meet. It is nothing more than looking for a restaurant or place. Even if it is done. If you think so, it is wrong. It doesn't matter if your parents don't care about these details, but if you care about the details, the two will inevitably occur or have opinions because of "arrangement".
The opinions I give you is that before the parents of both parties meet, talk to their parents and let parents tell themselves about what they need to pay attention to when they meet. Essence After discussing, go to his girlfriend to touch his head, then go to the woman's house to ask the woman's parents, and then decide the way and place of meeting. This is the most correct approach.
Is when you sought the opinions of the two parents, and then arranged the meeting in accordance with the women's parents and his parents' suggestions and requirements. However, it should be noted that sometimes the parents of the woman will deliberately make difficulties, or on the surface, they will be good, and all kinds of stabbing in the back. Before arranging the meeting, they must be clear to their girlfriend. Only my girlfriend stands on you. By the way, then the next thing is easy to do.
If the two young people you meet, and the parents of your two parties, then you don't have to prepare too tedious things, but if there are relatives from both parties present, then the seven mouthfuls may be in the tongue. Essence Therefore, if you can, try to stop your relatives from the present except for parents. If you want to mix it in, you can explain to your girlfriend first. Meeting is to discuss the marriage of the two newcomers. Inessed, although many relatives came to help and make ideas, in fact, it is full of bad water. This kind of person is not uncommon in reality. In order to prevent it, try not to let relatives present.
The preparations and suggestions related to the first meeting between the parents of the two parties include, but not limited to: communication, pavement, detail attitude, marriage discussion, and avoid conflict. For details, see below:
Personal experience:
Remember that I came to my house to eat at my family. My family arranged meals in a restaurant in the county seat. Because they were more independent with the boyfriend at that time, and the process of communication was more agreed. There was no embarrassment on both sides of the parents. How do we arrange and how do we do it. The whole process is very happy. During the meal, parents were happy to talk about each other, and then drove back after setting up the matter.
What should I do, how to talk, I compiled the following points:
. [Preparation]
1. Do a good job of communication
Some basic situations of the family have introduced the parents of both parties to have a preliminary contact and understanding. This is a very important small detail. The so -called basic situation is the rough age, work experience, retirement or employment, and personal hobbies. In this way, you can talk about the topic for the first time, not too embarrassing.
2. Early pavement
Is that little couples often meet with parents of both parties at dating and maintain a good relationship, so that the parents of the other party can recognize you and like you. In this way, when the parents of both parties meet, they will also be in the meeting. It is more friendly to your parents and it is easier to do.
. [Note when you meet]
1, things step by step
It recommended to start with the preferences of both parents and family, and slowly become familiar with it. Essence In addition, some specific numbers are inconvenient to mention, which can be appropriately cited for some subtle words to express. The key questions should be clearly answered. Don't be embarrassed, just seek truth from facts.
2. Be sincere and humble
It parents like to brag about their families and put themselves high. They are very favorable for their children. Parents on both sides are best sincere, both to promote a marriage, so the little couples must inform their parents and not to put their postures.
3. Avoid conflicts in the process
If the parents of both parties are not speculative and even conflict, newcomers should mediate, ease the atmosphere, and seek solutions calmly and calmly. It shows that this marriage is also valued by the parents of both parties, so try to say hello to their parents as much as possible to avoid conflict.
4. Avoid details of the process
The more details are talked about, the more details on the details can be done at a time. Hobbies and hobbies, enhance mutual understanding.
5. Wedding discussion
If parents who are preparing to get married meet, the wedding matters are of course the focus of discussion. Therefore, you can talk about: the decoration of the house, which in the new house, the payment of gifts, the payment of gifts, the determination of the wedding period, the local customs of the male (female) party, etc. Many wedding preparations can be discussed (These are the premise that the little couples have communicated well with their parents. Do n’t take it without communicating before.)
It a few points need to be avoided:
① temporary change of hexagrams and changes: before private communication before, private communication before The behavior of good grace and temporary price increase will make the other party think that it is very sincere.
②The attitude is tough, not to discuss: How much gifts must be used, otherwise other talks are available. This is the rhythm of collapse.
③ Give the horse: We are not going to marry your home. Or there are more people chasing him, if you do n’t agree, there are others. Such conversations will definitely annoy each other.
. [Treatment after meeting]
time to communicate with the parents in time after meeting. Parents are all people who come over and will never let you lose. If they are not satisfied, you can try to explain and adjust it first, and then communicate with the other party to discuss how to solve it.
. Parents on both sides should pay attention to?
The meeting place
Mades to meet the parents of both sides are generally to talk about the issue of marriage, so the location choice should not be too casual and noisy. The arrangement of the meeting should be elegant and quiet. Or the woman's home is waiting.
The meeting time
The time when both parents meet at the time of the couple and the parents of both parties, such as rest days, such as rest days. In addition, in order to take care of the physical strength of the parents, the total length of the meeting should be controlled at 1-2 hours.
attenders
The attenders at the meeting should include only couples and parents of both parties. Avoid the seven aunts, eight aunts, and their own affairs will inevitably have many inconveniences. Parents on both sides may hinder some important issues due to face -to -face ignoring.
4. Parents on both sides can call each other's parents: XX Dad XX Mom, if the relationship is familiar, you can also directly call your family
Please click input image description
Gift list
1. Fruit category: Principles are not buying Those who are too ordinary, buy delicious and not too heavy. Fruits are the first time to meet the most secure choice. It will not be amazing, but it will never be rude.
2. Food: Special dry goods, such as Cordyceps Summer, ginseng, pepper, abalone, and so on.
3. Specialty category: This is a very clever type of gifts, such as buying some pearl powder, specialty products on the seaside, and local specialty cakes to get it. It is generous to get the special product that allows the other party to try early.
4. Others: For example, you can buy skin care products, bags, perfume or something for the other mother. If you give the other father's father, buy tea, crafts, tobacco and alcohol.